Funny . Your posting is funny. However, I believe the truth about boundless access to mobile phones by spouses draws us back to the concept of "Gossip" or "dama" within relations .Mobiles in the recent times have tended to facilitate gossip . They have simply increased and enhanced this vital therapeutic activity, by allowing us to gossip 'anytime, anyplace, anywhere' and to text as well as talk. Whatever its moral status, there is certainly some evidence to suggest that gossip is a deep-seated human instinct and worries everyone within relationships. Now this doesnt go down well with the other sides of the relationships especially where there generates a seed of kukayikilana. Bwanji umangokhalila pa fone when you are back from work. And why do you always walk out talking outdoor even when the network service is perfect inside the house? ! Silly suspicions and stupid women are good at that.But the truth is that I believe in mobile phones being personal handsets and not something that could be shared. If my wife is being interested into opening my inbox and accessing my files then I think we are abusing our intergrity here. Of course this is now a talk about someone's 'private' life, and as such involves a sense of doing something which is naughty or forbidden.This element of 'invasion of privacy' is particularly relevant for the naturally reserved and inhibited humanity, for whom privacy is an especially serious matter. Our homes are our castles, we are taught to mind our own business, keep ourselves to ourselves, not make a scene or draw attention to ourselves and never wash our dirty linen in public. As a result - thanks to the inevitable 'forbidden-fruit effect' - we Malawians are a nation of curtain-twitchers, endlessly fascinated by the 'tabooed' private lives of our neighbours, friends, family and colleagues. My mobile fone is mine and for me . Period.