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plato042002


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It kills me when i read about women complaining about men running around on them on this forum, or men bragging about how they just can't be with one woman. Life is full of choices, some of us choose to play the victim and some of us don't,  which one are you??? let me help you out here, if you complain about a situation and don't do anything to change the situation, then you are playing a victim. My philosophy on the situation has always been, you teach people how to treat you, what that means is, if you let someone get away with stepping all over you, they will continue doing it, as simple as that.........


Women make a lot of mistakes when it comes to relationships, for example.........


get emotionally attached too quick, get way too comfortable, give up their personal life, and the list goes on and on.............i don't care how much you like a guy, you should always take a relationship slow, never get too comfortable. if you always have your hair and make up done, and is always in shape, keep it up even if you are in a relatinship, i trully believe that there is nothing like unconditional love, that is just a good Ooooo old notion. i also don't believe in till death do us part. i think it should be till i am not attracted to you anymore. this is very true in the contemporary world. ladies, always take care of yourselves, and this goes the same with the guys but i am speaking to the ladies today. Lets be honest, most women if not all, cling on to a bad relationship because they think  noone will ever want them, but if you keep yourself up it becomes a different situation. to be frank, we get tired of the guys just the same, let's face it, making love to the same person over and over can be monotonous to all. last but not least, never give up your own personal life, most women, once they get in a relationship, they stop going out with their friends, doing things they used to do, why would you do that,  real men are attracted to a woman that have a life.... and if a guy try to make you give up a personal life, maybe it's a wrong guy.  always keep friends, because when a relationship goes sour, you have someone to turn to. 


i have never been in a situation where i was played or i played someone, i am in a steady relationship at the moment, and if every woman is like me, then we will all agree that, even us do have tempations.  we are all capable of being unfaithful. what it comes down to is our own moral and ethical values. Personally i feel there is no reason to cheat, always end a relationship first before you jump into another one, it's about principal. 


what's my message today?????


a relationship is built on two things, trust and respect. If those two things are violated....... there is no relationship. Very simple.


my philosophy on relationship is, don't be with someone, if being with them makes you compromise your  happiness and your own personal integrity, Life is too short. always remember that we teach people how to treat us.


i'm out.......



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What is awful my dear plato is people playing OPRAH on forums. Telling others what constitutes relationships and how awful others are by letting their men walk over them. There's something called choice and we all have it. Some people like being hurt or used. Some enjoy pain as it gives them purpose. Some like being led and led astray (I hate using biblical language). Fact is your observations are wrong because the sheer anonymity of the people of this forum makes it impossible to accurately judge them or their posts other than from the rubbish they write.

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The above comments look like they came from Dr Phil or Ophra. Kinda hard to tell who's who.

-- Edited by malawian at 00:17, 2005-08-11

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I fo one enjoyed platos post, does that mean that i agree with her? no i dont.  I fo one have my own principles.  That does mean that i cant share what i believe? oh no.  Everyone is different yes in there own way.  Everyone on this forum has their own beliefs, u choose what to take and what not to take.  Abre she is not trying to change u shes trying to share what works fo her and if u choose to take then do if u dont then let it go man.  Its as simple as abc



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Abre she is not trying to change u shes trying to share what works fo her and if u choose to take then do if u dont then let it go man.  Its as simple as abc
Chichi Babes, you don't know Plato huh? She is Thou-Art-Holier-Than-Thou and did you read where she said "i have never been in a situation where i was played or i played someone, i am in a steady relationship at the moment, and if every woman is like me, then we will all agree that, even us do have tempations." Just wait a minute and you will see what she will say next.

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u see brandy some pple r in a relationship and dont even know that they're being played its just denial.  I do not agree with her in some of her statements because for me to believe that is just delusional.  Well if she has that attitude then thats sad because even Jesus did not act hollier than thou.  He was a very humble man we can all learn something from him

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Yeah, but Jesus was a bachelor!

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Plato its is right ? i agree with some of the things you have had to say about women but dont you think that there are people out there is both sexes who give the rest other people a bad name (same thing with races....Chris Rock does a really funny routine about that) when you experience is limited to people who have hurt you or mistreated you it becomes hard to differentiate new individuals from that group which has caused you pain and you end up attacking everyone in that group?

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If one's experience is limited to people that hurt you then the problem isn't with the world, it is with you and your perception. Attacking everyone in the group results in what we call prejudice. And prejudice is misplaced or misjudged hate. And oh yes, it is wrong.


As an adult you have no one to blame but your own choices. Remember no one can hurt you without your consent.



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i am not trying to be Oprah, neither am i trying to be doctor Phil, or i am trying to do is say it like i see it, as simple as that. Brandi i am sorry you got offended by me saying that i am in a steady relationship and never been in a situation i have been played or i have played someone, first of all, let me tell you something, people that are played know they are being played, they just are in denial, everybody does know when they are being played. i am not naive, if i was being played i would know, and guess what??? i would play to, as simple as that.........Like Chichi said, i am not trying to change anybody, just trying to let women that they don't need to stay in a worthless relationship, if you don't like the entry, ignore it, I totally disagree with you Brandy, i am really am a very humble person, i just don't take crap from anybody, Lady B i agree with your quote from chris Rock, but i am not sure where you trying to go with that, are you saying that i am trying to put people in a certain category?? coz i am not........really that entry was to tell every beautiful malawian women to gain their power back.........life is too short to be sitting around.............

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You denied the comparison with Oprah and went on a tangent exactly like her (or Dr. Phil). Well, since you say that you'll be aware if you were being played maybe you should write a book about it. It would definitely be a bestseller since history is full of people who didn't realise that their partner's were cheating till it was too late. I reckon you should share your wisdom with us poor souls si we can learn from your wisdom in these matters.

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so what if Jesus was a bachelor does that mean u cannot learn to be humble?  Abre i think ur just trying to provoke me but its ok.  I was commenting on the hollier than thou attitude i was not was not saying anything about Jesus having a girlfriend.  Some of just claim to be intelligent when we have no clue on what knowledge is all about

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Okay now you're judging me. According to your bible that's a no no isn't it?

My joke about Jesus was following the narrative of this thread... OOOOh never mind. It's frustrating trying to making sense to fundamentalists...

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pls am not judging u.  I dont judge anyone am just telling u how i see things.  Its not ma place fo me to judge.  U can say whatever u want to make urself feel good its ok nothing is frustrating me on this forum its sad that ur getting frustrated.  This is exactly what am talking about pple trying to prove that there intelligent.  I dont know u and u sure dont know me so u have nothing to prove to me.  Just stateting my views thats all if it bothers u just ignore me cuz u and me sure know that there is a alot of ignorance in this world

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I WAS BEING SARCASTIC....

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 Well, whats going on? Playaz?!!! Do you think you gain somefing if you play back???? Dont think so!!!! What you achieve is the pleasure of going down a notch on yourself (my opinion of-course). Naive or not, what you dont know doesnt exist so..................


Dont hate the playa but the game???? hmmmmm



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