general comments, speculations, rumours, gossipings... all these contribute to the saying that goes 'where there is smoke, there is fire...' there is this thing about beautiful ladies, kuti most of them are 'loose', i wonder kuti is it because of the many approaches they get from admirers that prompts them to such conduct or what. upite pamalo poti pali macute chicks umva kuti uyutu uyu ndihule, hee uje amatere blah blah blah. for guys there isn't much of a say unless you are a 'celebrity'. now i turn to wonder kuti the said girls mukamva zotere how do you take it? most of us guys are very handsome, does it mean kuti you girls mumanena kuti ndife mahule? the funny thing is osaoneka bwino kweni kweni sanenedwa, ndiye kuti ndizoona kuti the beautiful are ussually loose?
What do you think? Am not trying to be cheeky but since you know some beautiful ladies as well, i take it you can see if most of them are mahule? I know many beautiful ladies and am yet to agree to the fact that most of them are mahule.
As for fellas, i know many handsomes as well and i know the playaz among them too but who am i to judge?
No, not most beautiful ladies are mahule and it's really negative to hold that opinion cos then one would always see a beautiful lady and condemn her without trial. As asked before, what do you think???? He????????
.... A whore is a woman who would sleep with everyone except you...
Since there is no universal definition of beauty or "hule" then it is all so subjective and awfully shallow-minded to come up with such an observation. if one goes to places where the individials (and I use the word ironically) spend their time pointing fingers at others, gossiping at their sexual conducts and hypocritically judging them, then what do you expect? You would find closed mindedness of that level.
What does ones sexual appetites have to do with anything anyway. Apart from creating fodder for imbeciles to gossip about?
i dont think its fair to generalise isues sometimes...the thing is,not everyone else is happy to see some fly chick (especially fellow women) and sometimes,the only way to bring down that chick is to label her kuti ndi hule!!!
i believe that in life,you dont have to believe every word that people say about an individual cos some opinions are biased..its more wise to see for yourself who that person really is
YTP.... I have got a feeling it might be true. go to a college, out of approx. 10 cute females 6-8 would have a 'loose' trait. for the average or below average looking majority a very small # of them might have some elements of looseness.
couldnt agree with you more abres!! i dont think its fair to generalise isues sometimes...the thing is,not everyone else is happy to see some fly chick (especially fellow women) and sometimes,the only way to bring down that chick is to label her kuti ndi hule!!! i believe that in life,you dont have to believe every word that people say about an individual cos some opinions are biased..its more wise to see for yourself who that person really is
I agree with you Jones. Sadly, this type of behaviour (pointing,stereotyping, labelling hot girls) is common in African countries, not in the Western world. This takes place at schools,universities etc. In the west, such are places where everyone is busy trying to achieve his/her own goals.
The cute ones are not always loose. Everyone can be. As Jones said, hate and jealousy cause the labellings.
Where there is poverty and lack of oppoutrunity, the fitest survive. It would make sense that the beautiful women in the poor areas would use theri beauty and bodies to get ahead. Where the guys would use there brains or physical streghth b/c the culture emphanises these qualities. What this guyt is saying makes sense to me from a sociological point of view. But its wrong to say all thebeautiful women are anything. But, instead of looking for beauty only in women, try looking for other characteritics. We are not all BODY. Give the Women an opportunity and a Book, and we will see if those beautiful women are still using there intellect. If its a choice between saggy old nuts and readging a book , i thin kthe answer for most women would be clear. The good Looking ugys in Malawi are sluts too, and whats there reason.. they love sex... which is the lesser of two evils... not that sex is evil...
I am single and independent. I am a people’s person. Listen carefully, I love my drink and I drink a lot BUT responsibly, the fact that I am good looking and hang out a lot has left me labelled a ‘whore’. Zimandiwawa to think kuti all I do is drink and ngati kulikukongola sindinachite kupempha. Naturally I am not into men that much, would not mind having an affair if I feel right but I have gone years without one and I am so happy. My friends somex ask me how I manage when it comes to ‘that’ and I think it’s all about what you feed your mind with…. that’s me. Akazi timadeleledwa kwambiri, even poti anthu awiri apezeleledwa otchuka amakhala mkazi.
People can't just look at beautiful gilrs and appreciate them or people who seem to be enjoying their lives to the fullest. Simple things seem simple but are never simple.
If I did not make sense.... it's all because I am bitter!
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You seem to miss the fundamantal thing that drives men when they see a "beautiful" (highly subjective) woman. They want to sleep with her. It really is not rocket science. If you are attractive as you so vainly claim (without a shread of irony I presume) and at the same time turn men away from having sexual relations with you. Or you lack the drive for sexual relations, then perhaps you should be looking into that problem first. Instead of worrying about idle gossip, maybe you should sort out the sexual repression first. Or better still open your heart to love and its benefits. Everything else would seem clearer as a result.
chonde osakwiya, facts can be very stubborn, koma ndizoona kuti azimai ooneka bwino ambiri are ussually ujeni, mahule is rather too strong but maybe 'loose'? you beautiful, nice thing, now judge you... if not then why the smoke?
ndili naye... and hey shes one cute shorty, fortunately sitinayambe zeni zeni (-:)) i dont know her background that much. i am scared to ask, ndingakhumudwe...
chonde osakwiya, facts can be very stubborn, koma ndizoona kuti azimai ooneka bwino ambiri are ussually ujeni, mahule is rather too strong but maybe 'loose'? you beautiful, nice thing, now judge you... if not then why the smoke?
amdala,
the answer is NO!!NADA!! not ALL cute chicks are 'loose'!
it all depends on your perception in a sense that if you just hear stories from peeps and not judge the person/get to know her yourself then im sorry to say that you will be misled by peoples views, which are sometimes baseless!!
Ankhaze my dear,
i feel you girl, been there and believe me it hurts like hell!!!especially when you know the truth and peeps try to ignore this and judge you based on their own 'gossip' views!!
and tell you wot?? in myown opinion,i think wot matters the most is if you know wots true and people close to you know this as well BASI!!!
why the hell would you bother yourself gettin worried about some ohns who aint your real friends,all they want to do is bring you down??
The one thing i've noticed as well is that if you refuse to go out with a guy then they also label you "hule"(if you think i'll go out with you after callin me that name then boy are you LOCO!). I think they think that if they can't have you then they will try there best to make sure that no one else can have you. I think it's pathetic when a guy stoops so low. When girls label other girls "hule" it's mainly cos they are jelous of you. Coz i don't see how someone who doesn't know you or has never even seen you can call you something like that.
It used to bother me when i used to hear things like that but not anymore. People are just vindictive and i know that they are jelous. I live ma life the way i want to live it and if i want to have fun i will( after all it's ma money).
Africans need to concentrate on more worthwhile issues instead of name callin each other coz believe you me babes, it aint going to help you one tiny bit!
Me, i'm one independant lady who know what she wants and isn't afraid to get it. I spend ma own money and take care of maself! If you want to label me go ahead!
Don't be player haters for real!
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"To educate a man is to educate an individual but to educate a woman is to educate a whole nation and people" MALCOM X
Miss Thang of ourse you spend your own money and look after yourself. That is WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO. You make it sound like it is some achievement. Well, no one's going to do it for you...
It surprises me sometimes the amount of time spent moaning at all that petty "he said, she said" crap and idle gossip. Don't you folks have other things to talk about than whether some morons calls you HULE?
As for the beautiful women, to those whom much is given, much is expected. People watch you closer, gossip more readily, anything to take away from you and bring you down to 'their' level.
And to be fair, fly chics get stepped to a lot more and if the bruvvas got game, the poor chics aren't superhuman... they're bound to slip up now and then, give in AND regret it.
I'm a retired (I hope ) dawg and one thing I remember is that I could never resist the allure of the next conquest, the thrill of the chase, the pleasure when I hit that. I'd come out all guns blazing and play whatever card I figured would work to achieve my dastardly ends. Some of the poor chics never had a chance, I was a consummate actor. Sure I got burnt a coupla times by women with integrity but truth be told, they were a minority.
So don't place extra demands on beautiful women, they are human just like the rest of us, why must they ascribe to a higher moral ground simply because their God-given beauty puts them in the spotlight?
Character, personality, the HEART of a person... that's what counts in the end. Beauty is skin deep. Leave 'em be.