Rich Chicks

Lady B · Senior Member

Rich Chicks

kesso · Senior Member

Well, my partner at the moment earns more than I do. At the moment. Maybe late on on the future I might get a better paying job. Actually, I will. At the end of the day, I still pay all the bills, rent etc so she can spend most of her money on the sort of fancy things that women do. And you know what's funny I still seem to have more money at the end of the mont than she does(?) Well I guess that's a question for another topic.

Does it affect my "fragile male ego". Well... No! Why, because my self worth is pretty actualised that I don't think of importance in terms of who earns more, infact it's not exactly a competition between us, but a partnership. If other aspects of our relationship remains at 50/50 (respect, love, trust, sex) nothing else really matters. We still have a long way to travel anyways...

Black Panther · Senior Member

Id think that the Malawian males - especaillly abroad should be opne to that. Lets look at it this way , with people facing immigration issues, work visa issues, class requirements, financial issues, sometimes you will meet a guy or girl whos had it rougher or better then u. It takes some people a longer time to do thing becuz most of us are in a foreign country, period. we gotta think about keeping our status, or some oppourtunites arent avalible to us etc..Just bcoz ur still sleeping with the Burger King to make it thru school doesnt mean the guy is not worth anything. Look at potential - So girlz shouldnt be afraid of doing there thing so that they can meet a good guy..plz. fellas, it shouldnt reflect on ur masculinity. A brillant female mind is a terrible thing to waste.

-- Edited by Black Panther at 16:32, 2005-05-18

-- Edited by Black Panther at 16:33, 2005-05-18

kesso · Senior Member

You know BlackPanther, you are to rational, too level headed, too openminded it almost seems that you're putting it on. Either you are older and more experienced in life and stuff or curiously very well educated and informed. Whatever the case, you seem take a very rational, philosophical view of the world that comes from experience.

Your true identity remains a mystery...

jones_1 · Veteran Member

i must say,guys who r willing to go out with some chick who has a higher status than them are hard to find!but there are some who accept you the way you r!

but to say the truth be warned that some insecurities(from the guys side) may seep in at some point in the relationship and its up to you 2people to sort out these!

been there,and i must say,as long as you make the guy feel safe and secure that the status doesnt matter to you,then its all good

game · Guru

guys

i think most rich girls or women getting bigger cake than men are often lonely,reason being men tend to be threatened by them.been in that position before where her cake was bigger than mine and if i bought her a present she would get me something more expensive like a car on my birthday so it kinda puts you in a difficult position.i aint trying to brag but i couldnt handle it,so i had to overtake her.

Black Panther · Senior Member

Most african- american women are dating less sucessful men. this is a social phenom. They are looking twice at pple they wouldnt have initially looked at b/c its either that or dating a convict or dating outside there "racial" group. decisions. descions. but the day I see Malawian women, sucessfull goin back to the village to meet a mate, I will shave my hair bald.

kesso · Senior Member

That is never going to happen. Well, not in my lifetime...

chichi · Senior Member

I make more money than my man so its ok. I dont see him complaining but then am not the kind of woman that would reminding him of that. His ma man and i respect him very much. So even if i would make more money than no one could ever tell cuz thats just how u supposed to treat a man

Afana · Newbie

I do not see any problem dating a lady who make more money than me. I mean it all depends on how one is blessed. If a lady is blessed with a good job or she is good at doing business, should be afraid to date her becuase of that. Us guys, we have to face realities that they will be ladies making more money than us so why should we limit ourself to only those ones who are making less money than us.

hazeleyes · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: game
"guys i think most rich girls or women getting bigger cake than men are often lonely,reason being men tend to be threatened by them.been in that position before where her cake was bigger than mine and if i bought her a present she would get me something more expensive like a car on my birthday so it kinda puts you in a difficult position.i aint trying to brag but i couldnt handle it,so i had to overtake her. "

I think u are right game in that some men do feel threatened by women who are doing well for themselves. i consider myself to be very independent and career-focused, but i find that alot of the men i've dated (mostly malawian) can't handle that, and tend to have an inferiority complex. if i enter into a relationship, i don't look at how much the guy makes - as long as he has ambition and drive. what i tend to find is that somewhere down the line, the cracks in the relationship start to appear as the little insecurities surface.....thats when the problems start.

sugarplum · Member

If there are men out there who wont date women that earn more than them sorry you dont know what you're missing,its not a matter of pride but YOUR EGO IS GETTING IN YOUR WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!