I need a help

Mleza · Newbie

I need a help

mabogwe · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: Mleza
"Kodi abale munthu wa AIDS sangakwatiwe? Ine ndafuna ndifunse."

kodi bambo ndi funso limenelo??

amwene mulindizakazingati???

davie · Newbie

Zija timakana ndiye izi.Mzanu wangoyamba kumene koma funso lake mwa crasher kale.Osangokhala chete bwanji ena ayankhe.

If you know the answers,it does not mean everyone does.Tsopano khalidwe lopangana discourage lichepe.

You dont know why she/he has asked that question!

Mleza · Newbie

Am so sorry if i've annoyed you. It sounds abit silly but it might be so important to others, even to yourself my dear. I will stop here for u, let me answer Davie instead

Mleza · Newbie

Thanks Dav, am not asking this for anyone else, no! but for myself. This is a lady age btween 34-38 on life saving treatment but single. Am also a human being like anyone else, i need to chat, discuss with other people. Zimachitika sikuti ndinafuna ayi. But what can i do, Funsoli silopusa and its got nothing to do with age. May i won't to get married. Well i can get married to someone of my status don't you think so?

davie · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: Mleza
"Thanks Dav, am not asking this for anyone else, no! but for myself. This is a lady age btween 34-38 on life saving treatment but single. Am also a human being like anyone else, i need to chat, discuss with other people. Zimachitika sikuti ndinafuna ayi. But what can i do, Funsoli silopusa and its got nothing to do with age. May i won't to get married. Well i can get married to someone of my status don't you think so? "

Firstly I want to salute you for coming in the open and tell us your status.Ambiri we dont know kuti zinthu zili pati.

You dont need someone with your condition to marry you.Anyone can marry you.I know a few who have married someone negative.

Lastly live your life as normal as you can.

davie · Newbie

I wanted to send you e mail koma tsoka ilo your E mail palibe.Anyway when you log in go to User details and then click View Private messege,wamva Mleza?

davie

sepusepu · Senior Member

mabongwe first thing that i learned is that you never answer a question with another question.

Ngati muliozindikila mopitiliza muyezo just dont comment, its either you think you know the answer. You have to criticize and then bring a suggested solution.Osamangocrasha zilizonseyi.

Mleza,

i think there is nothing wrong with getting married for a person with your status as long as you find somebody who knows and accept you as you are.

sepu sepu

-- Edited by sepusepu at 09:00, 2005-05-18

game · Guru

mleza

you can get married no doubt just open up to the other person about your status before kudya malesa.if the person is like mabongwe atha kudya kabwazi but if he is understanding he can stick by you.and be happy together forever.

chichi · Senior Member

If you tell the other person about yourself & they cosent to the relationship then its ok girl keep your head up and remember to pray

sugarplum · Member

Goodluck to you and big up for being so honest and open,dont let anyone put you down, there is someone out there for you.

manolo · Newbie

i absolutely see no reason why you shouldnt get married. marriage is not all about sexual commitment or having kids. marriage is all about "love" and not age or disease.

if you can find someone who is ready for that commitment i see no problem but if that marriage was for sexual intercourse i would then suggest that you practice safe sex or other control mechanism.

From public health point of view, i would recommend that u should avoid sex as much as u could and focus on building your immune system i.e practicing good nutrition, performing exercises, seeking medical attention when necessary and reading as much health literature as u could.Remember to live as a usual normal being.

its good that you have come in the open and thats the only way we could defeat that epidemiological problem.

Lady B · Senior Member

Mleza

You have asked a very difficult question and there is no clear right or wrong path. I can only share my thinking and hope that it helps you to make up your mind.

First are you sure that you are HIV positive? In other words was any confirmatory test done? If you are relying on a single test please get yourself tested again. Never believe a single test if it is positive, always ensure that a second test is done.

If a HIV positive person gets married and has insertive sex, even with a condom, there is a chance that the other partner will eventually get an infection in about 15% of the cases. The best bet is to marry a positive person and then take all precautions so that neither partner gets a second infection. In any case if you are HIV positive and do decide to get married it is ESSENTIAL that you share the knowledge of your HIV status with the potential partner. This is not only a legal responsibility but also the correct thing to do for moral and ethical reasons.

I admire you for facing a very difficult problem with your eyes open to the actual situation.

'kiss'

Mleza · Newbie

I've done that davie, check ur email.

Mleza · Newbie

Sepu sepu

Thanks for your advice and i agree with you. I would rather go for a P-guy. You understand one another better. Am sure the're some people who are also thinking my way. To you men and women ndakumasulani. We've all gone through different experience, some of us it wasnt our fault. Be normal, be positive in everything you do.

Mleza · Newbie

Thanks so much for your advice game, and am sure mabongwe will stick to some of the facts here.

Mleza · Newbie

True chichi, healing prayer is my daily relief. For me to come forward to you guys its part of my step ahead in FAITH. And i always thank God for keeping me up to day. Abale apita ndangati? kumadzifunsa

Mleza · Newbie

I will take your advice, thanks

Mleza · Newbie

Exactly Manolo, its all about love. Ukadutsa muzowawa umafuna mtendere. from public health point of view, i've participated in all these. Counselling both church and hospital, Meetings from different organisations. Infact i brought this issue because it was raised in one of our Meetings. Mooti i will share with them your views.

Mleza · Newbie

Lady B

Am sure about this. I wasnt tested once but thrice. The forth one was just to check if i had any other diseases, unfortunately nothing was found. I go for check up regularly, but proper check up is once a year. Thanks too for your advice. Wakusina khutu ndi m'nasi

mabogwe · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: sepusepu
"mabongwe first thing that i learned is that you never answer a question with another question. Ngati muliozindikila mopitiliza muyezo just dont comment, its either you think you know the answer. You have to criticize and then bring a suggested solution.Osamangocrasha zilizonseyi. Mleza, i think there is nothing wrong with getting married for a person with your status as long as you find somebody who knows and accept you as you are. sepu sepu -- Edited by sepusepu at 09:00, 2005-05-18"

izi ndiye zachamba zija!!

munthu umacrasher ndi momwe waonela hey bambo bwanji??

mabogwe · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: game
"mleza you can get married no doubt just open up to the other person about your status before kudya malesa.if the person is like mabongwe atha kudya kabwazi but if he is understanding he can stick by you.and be happy together forever."

zoona if you want kulapula malesa there is one thing (dulex) basi tu

{joke game! }

mabogwe · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: Mleza
"Thanks so much for your advice game, and am sure mabongwe will stick to some of the facts here."

hahahahahah

ndiwe osangalatsa.