The banning of sexmadsista-isit true?

Ngwazi · Guru

The banning of sexmadsista-isit true?

jones_1 · Veteran Member

hey,

just heard that as well!dont know why though!

may you enlighten us please and wed appreciate if valid reasons would be given

PeterGriffin · Member

yup..its true alright..she has been banned, but I also dont know why.

I dont know why this forum has to be so conservative and stuff. I mean there aint no 10 yr olds up on this forum. GTFO with all this profanity policy, athu a zichenjela, you should get the best of both worlds[Athu otukwana plus the narrow path people]. I mean if they dont like it why browse it, see something else.

Advise to the administrator, why dont you make topics (hyperlinked to forums) just like malawilistings.com: you could have like[Politics;Religiongateway;Getwild(where everybody gat jus' write whatever);4thematured(where people can talk about sex and things like those);NewsandGossip(where you have like your previous pastor stories);MoviesandMusic etc. So that those tight ass phucks that complain anytime someone says ( Mbolo, P*ssy ) already know what they are gettin themselves into.

Black Panther · Senior Member

FYI, discussion administrators have certain guidlines they have to adhere to as well in order to keep the discussion board. Otherwise its classfeid as porn and subject to publice idndecency fines etc... and with the way the FCC is today (thanks to JJ and JT @ the NFL half-time show - Were going to be singing the beetles in here too) Most hosting companies make you agree that you will ban certain language, profanity etc.. so most likely its not up to the administrator. Also, sometimes, there are people who just swear like troopers for no reason when thye dont have sumthing to say -thats annoying to me too- If your going to use profnaity use it at the right moment - some people dont - and you cant have a discussion with them -

Chiki · Veteran Member

That's strange cos at some point today about 2 hours ago i was logged in at the same time wit the sista.And i thought she was supposed to be warned first before being banned?Personally i really dont see anything she might have been banned for in her postings.Ive seen worse postings on other forums that would make madsista's look like a still born child's. On any forum you get your share of anthu ongaza thats wot makes it more interesting.

I would also like 2 kno how u guys found out that the sista has been banned? Just Curious........

PeterGriffin · Member

come on buddy..come on buddy. I am yet to read or see something or anything that has been posted here that jus' drops your jaw and say"Jeez...that is a bit too extreme". Anyway maybe I shouldn't jus' generalize things. Its jus' that some of us are jus' used to such words and they wouldn't mean jack 'ish... Thanks to the tertiary Malawi education, where we were exposed to the worst words anybody can say to a person. I understand their are some intelligent mashmallow minds out there that read some of the postings here with their hands half blocking their eyes [as if they watching a horror movie] and blush [although they black] and feel offended.

I know that the administrator has to stick to certain guidelines. That said "have you seen anyone post some porn on this site?". Obviously that will not be tolerated, that is when a person has really closed the line and deserves to be banned.

Black Panther · Senior Member

Just trying to make sense of ti- maybe they were banned for no reason- These things tend to trickle down from our leaders Thats why we need a memorial for Banda so we can learn from his mistakes!

Abiti Nyono · Member

Rules are rules, if you break them, expect to pay. The webmaster would not be so stupid enough as to keep the Posting guidelines on top of every topic for all eyes to see and at the same time let immoral and foul language have a place on this forum. I highly respect his action, at least his words are slowly turning into action.

On the other hand, I think there should be some sort of medium of communication between the webmaster and us, the members, whereby members can be enlightened on these kinds of developments or even warned way in advance before such drastic measures are taken, coz we all know that to err is human and everybody deserves a second chance.

-- Edited by Abiti Nyono at 12:00, 2005-05-13

Ngwazi · Guru

JRC,

would you enlighten us on this development please?We are not questioning your powers but at least if we know the reasons it will help us to "steer"clear of the issues raised.Thank you.(please dont post the guidelines once again)

sexmadsista · Veteran Member

its so cool, am allowed bck but i still dunno y i was banned e n way

jones_1 · Veteran Member

good to have you back girl!!!!

we b lookin forward to your postings

you makin this forum mo interestin/excitin!!knahmean???

Jane Doe · Member

Unfortunately not for long enough

sexmadsista · Veteran Member

quote:
Originally posted by: Jane Doe
"OH Geez, shes back..Hurray! Back to pervet distortion land again....YIPEE..!!!"

hey, dont be cheeky now ey

mabogwe · Newbie

RE: RE: The banning of sexmadsista-isit true?

chichi · Senior Member

These days they're so many rules out their especially when it comes to race and sex issues. PPle can get sued and more arrested to this. This girl is claiming that shes 15 years old shes not even an adult and yet she come here and wanna talk about sex or sexuall explicit things. Kids her age have parental guidance. So I wouldnt blame JRC if he banned her from this site. It might even be a good idea maybe the parents would even thank you for that cuz u never know who else is reading what is being typed on this forum

aight peace ya'll

kesso · Senior Member

Sometimes I feel the laws of parental guidance are flawed. Take for instance sexmadsista; who I take it is quite unpopular with the women (for obvious reasons) and is popular with the guys (also for obvious reasons). She's going to be 16 in about a months time (I asked her) which would decriminalise sex between her and anyone. Between now and then there's not going to be much physiological ot mental change to her person, but a day before her birthday and you'll go to jail, a day after... Nothing.

Well I don't know her personally, but I remember when at that age I was at the mercy of my hormones. Very natural, nothing to be worried or scared about. To make someone feel unclean or worse immoral about what is a natural transition to adulthood is the main cause of sexual dysfunction in later life. Any third grade psychologist would tell you that. And not to sound too Freudian, is quite an unforgivable thing.

Now for the controversy...

Religion plays a great role in a lot of this. Preaching moral values and spreading guilt in regards to sexual activity. Creating the element of SIN and remorse to what is the most natural thing living things do. I find that repulsive. Sex is something dirty? How? Why? It's chemical. Hormones, instincts, smell, taste, sound, sight. That's all. The body is driven to give it, accept it, seek it and since we're social beings, profit from it.

I can't for the life of me stand when some so-called defenders or morality come and tell me how and where and when to do it. And make me feel guilty if I don't conform.

A can write a book about it, Maybe I should...

Abiti Nyono · Member

Kesso my man,

Reading through your posting above, I find it to be very lacking in actuality, facts and the realities of real life. In every society, community, groups etc, there are acceptable cultural norms and values that every member to that society is expected to adhere and conform to. To enforce that, people in authority governing and having jurisdiction over such kinds of groups, sets up codes of conduct, rules (collectively known as the Law) that are expected to be maintained by their subjects, failing which result into the disobedient subjects being reprimanded.

Now, the issue here is not about nature, the act of sex or the process of adolescence as you are trying to portray and make us believe but rather the subject at the center of the issue and the way she has conducted herself on this forum. If you refer to point number three of the Posting Guidelines which reads and I quote; "Do not solicit or advertise". One of the definitions of the word Solicit according to Dictionary.com is to entice or incite to evil or illegal action. Talking about sex with a minor or an under-aged person is considered to be a misdemeanor here in the States where the moderation of this forum is done unless of course if it is for educational purposes which we all know is not the primary aim of this forum. It’s no wonder that the majority members of this forum find the postings by your favorite girl to have contravened the above-quoted Posting guideline rule since she was trying to solicit members of this forum or rather the Malawiana community to talk about sex. There are enough websites on the World Wide Web that carter her kinds of interests, some even with graphic material but this is not one of them so I guess she came to the wrong spot. If I may ask, what’s your fascination with Sexmadsista? The thing is, as the others have rightly said, this is an anonymous forum and as such she might just be fooling with you getting you addicted to her postings and all that, when in reality she is a grown ass lady with kokoma kogwera mkati!

On the issue about your rights whatever you wanna call it, I don’t think you were being realistic when you talked about being told of’ how, where, when to do it’. Of course you have the right to make your own choices within your boundary of jurisdiction but once you step out of that then expect the rule of law to take its course. Just because I feel so natural in my birthday suit sipping my favorite cognac of Hennessy moving in and about my house, that wouldn’t give me the right to show up on Monday morning at the office in that state for the mere reason of “nature fills good”. Make sense? I could have gone on arguing about the other points you raised regarding religion but I’ll leave that in the hands of the Lord and knowing that you are a non-believer I thought it best to let you concentrate on issues that you are a believer on e.g. homosexuality etc which I find very distasteful.

Confucius then Sigmund Freud then who's next, Lepidus? Hahahaha, keep reading!

kesso · Senior Member

If you had read through my post and kept an open mind you would maybe have seen that I was airing MY opinion. MINE!

As an INDIVIDUAL with what I believe is a more than average intelligence and wide educational and cultural background. I have lived and studied in Africa, Asia, Europe and America. I can albeit in my own mind, create my own moral universe, incorporating my experience, cultural upbring and natural instincts. You type, and I quote "solicit is to entice or incite to evil". What is YOUR definition of evil. If you look closer at society judgementally and not obediently, you'll find that evil is subjective. There is no single universal definition of evil. Laws are meant to be challenged, debated.

50 years ago homosexuality was evil. Well, it might still be in your mind, but it isn't anymore in the west. Why? Because that notion was challenged.

Now before you start accusing me of being gay or advocating perversion, I say this. You need to open your mind to WHY things are the way they are in society. How do laws come into place and for whom do they benefit.

Before you laugh at my reading of Confucius maybe you should read hm first (1 billion Chinese people do) and Freud too. At least before you pour scorn at a notion you should at least know what you're talking about. That requires WIDE reading. I am an Atheist. But not after I have studied religion.

You still have a lot to learn about the mind.

Abiti Nyono · Member

Kesso ma men,

How was your weekend man? I had a blast, you know how summer times are .Now let’s get back to business, I am sitting here with my laptop in my hands trying to read your much distorted sentimental posting, with frequent abrupt full stops which I’m trying so hard to persevere in the hope that a backing fact will follow, in the end I’m left feeling a lot more unconvinced with your implausible arguments.

See, in my earlier posting, I had gone a mile further illustrating my points about the Law before ultimately arriving at the definition of the word Solicit, that in itself should have been enough indication that emphasis was to be placed at the word illegal in the definition rather than the word evil. True, a lot of words have numerous meanings but it’s just a matter of drawing a line of best fit to get an appropriate definition which is applicable to your situation.

Homosexuality is still evil today, even here in the west such that so many states are starting to ban same-sex marriages and even our very wise President of the US is pushing for legislation that will ban such evil acts! So don’t tell me fake tales of “50 years ago…. Blablablahhhhhh”

In case you got me wrong, I wasn’t laughing at you reading the Philosophy, Psychology books, no that’s a good thing keep doing that, rather I was laughing at your idea of throwing the psychoanalyst’s and philosopher’s names in your passages to help validate your points and make you look like a big think-tank which between both of us is inevitable that you’re not but we will leave the rest to decide.

Create your own moral universe, yeah that will happen, only in your geek mind. I still have a lot to learn? I need to open my mind? Wait a minute, you sound too judgmental my friend; you don’t know me like that. Get back!

Thank you, come again!

kesso · Senior Member

I must confess, I am a bit of a geek. I'm misanthropic, intellectually curious and trust more in the technical and scientific aspects of life. So all that talk of morals, God, good and evil, goes over my head. I'mm constantly asking why? How? When? Who? Looking for answers everywhere, challenging even centuries old dogma on religion and philosophy. That is the moral universe that I meant. It doesn't mean I'm out of touch with reality, far from it. I was reading a book by Bill Bryson; A short history of Nearly Everything. You should read it if you haven't. His view of life is more or less similar to mine.

And I probably read too much. Because I find TV and popular culture too low-brow, unchallenging. Fox News, CNN, BBC, it's all predictable, geared to popularise its own hegemony. I see through it, I have a degree in Bsc in Media studies anyway. Don't get me started on the newspapers. With this is mind, I retrieve to my own mind where the only agenda there is the quest for more knowledge. That is my moral universe.

As for the US president pushing legislation to outlaw gay marriage, well by using Bush in your argument is folly to me. My hatred for everything he stands for is evident in my previous posts. Anyway America is going through one of it's extreme, self righteous phases, a bit like the 50s with Mcarthy and Eisenhower. It will pass. Other liberal countries like Holland have gone ahead and legalised gay marriage. Belgium too and I think Spain too.

Homosexuality as evil might be true to the majority of the population in the world but I believe a change is gonna come. From decriminalisation to acceptance is a short route.

sexmadsista · Veteran Member

y does it matter wen a person has sex N E way?

Paudah_Paf · Member

quote:
Originally posted by: chichi
"These days they're so many rules out their especially when it comes to race and sex issues. PPle can get sued and more arrested to this. This girl is claiming that shes 15 years old shes not even an adult and yet she come here and wanna talk about sex or sexuall explicit things. Kids her age have parental guidance. So I wouldnt blame JRC if he banned her from this site. It might even be a good idea maybe the parents would even thank you for that cuz u never know who else is reading what is being typed on this forum aight peace ya'll"

Don't mean to alarm y'all or nuthn but word has it that the current age of legal consent to sexual relations in Malawi is 14. Like the rest of our constitution it hasn't changed in decades.
Mind you, I haven't independently verified this yet but a lawyer told me.

Scary for the parents. I once would have been overjoyed at this news but as I'm an adult now I realise that girls in Malawi are not ready to make sensible decisions about who to choose as a sexual partner EVEN when they're 18.

It's chipwilikiti in the clubs nowadays, you'd scarce believe the kids you'll meet up with of a Friday night, skimpily clad trying to dance like Beyonce. And if I'm to call a spade a spade they ARE children. The bedroom puts that beyond any reasonable doubt. A grown man can tell the difference between the body of an immature female and that of a mature one.

It's another glaring thing that's wrong with our legislation at the moment.
To shock you even further, over Easter when we hit Mangochi for the Carlsberg bash, there were TWELVE YEAR OLD prostitutes gallavanting they biz all over da show.
Sickened me to my heart to see old pot-bellied fellas walking them off into the shadows for a quick one.

Yet our politicians waste every other sitting of parliament debating trivial issues.

God help Malawi. I said it once and I won't stop saying it.

So sexmadsista, if you really are that young, remember what Jay-Z said:
They say you can't turn a bad girl good/
But once a good girl's goin bad, she's gone forever.../

That's my two tambala...

Abiti Nyono · Member

Kesso,

Sounds funny when sarcasm is mistaken for pragmatism, don’t you think? Notice the way I had used the words ‘very wise’ in my other post, if I really meant that, I would have at list gave out a strong strand of hint of that somewhere close. Anyways, this sh*t is starting to get boring with all your bullcrap talk about other irrelevant stuff deviating from our initial argument and the topic at hand. I’ll take it like a man and move on, you should too. I’ll be on the lookout for Bill Bryson’s book, thanks to you. Have a nice day.

-- Edited by Abiti Nyono at 23:01, 2005-05-16

sexmadsista · Veteran Member

wat r u guys on bout now? and no1 co's me a kid so dont u lot start!

Zee · Member

quote:
Originally posted by: sexmadsista
"wat r u guys on bout now? and no1 co's me a kid so dont u lot start!"

Sexmadsista

If you are indeed a kid, take your childish stuff somewhere else where your peers can appreciate it otherwise if you are grown up then start acting like one because you are trying to potray a picture that you ooze with sex, any grown person knows that this just a WWW and you or we can't get it here

chichi · Senior Member

KESSO ok I get what ur trying to explain to us but my question is have u ever in your entire life read the Bible or try to understand it? U see I am not talking about religion I am talking about the Bible becuase those are two different things. U see knowing about God and understanding his plans its all about faith and belief. Its just believing that I am here and in some sort of ways things happen in ma life that i cannot understand but it happens and there is just a force behind it. Is it science? I get that your the kind of person that likes to read so I really suggest you read and study and understand the Bible I am telling you for a fact that you will never be the same. There is no where in my posting where I said sex is a sin trust me its not a sin, its a part of our human nature. Sex though is there for two pple who are married. Sex is a pleasure for Pple who LOVE each other and have come together before God to confess their love and be together till death do them part. Now am I saying that am perfect? nope and not in the least bit perfect. I am sinner we were all born into this sinful world, but we are born again thru the blood of Jesus Chirst who died for you and me.

For example I will tell you a lil about me. I was born in a very christian home and i went to church every sabbath but i didnt really believe or had the faith in christ. So i went out there as a teenager and did all sorts of things like smoking, drinking, and had sex. Even though i went to church singing and shouting the name of Jesus I really didnot understand him. It was until i was Pregnant everything in ma life changed. U know i started blaming God that i go to church everyday and i sing for u in the church but why did you let this thing happen to me. I was angry so i stoped going to church and I went on with ma life. I had ma baby in the hospital but something went wrong I ended up with blood clots in ma lungs. I couldnt breath I had to go back to the hospital and i left lil baby at home and that day if i would've delayed an hour to go to the hospital I was going to be dead i wouldnt be typing this testmony to you. I remember praying to GOd lord please keep me alive help me so i can get out of here and be there for ma child because her father never wanted her.

I lived thru it and the doctors themselves did not even believe it. There are some things that science also cannot explain u just have to believe. So I am pleading with you read the Bible this goes to everyone here on this site. Life is too short if u were to die today what would be the meaning of your life? and what would pple say about you? and where do u think ur destiny lies?

kesso · Senior Member

Your story is very humbling to say the least.

But I cannot give my opinions without causing a serious backlash. For one, even if I did believe in God, I don't know why I should pray to a white, Jewish carpenter that lived 2000 years ago and call him God. It is the highest level of the racial superiority of the white man (the image of a white Jesus) and it cannot be questioned, unfortunately.