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Originally posted by: chichi
"Do you think that young people should abstain from sex until they are married ?....

IMPLICATION: All of us members in-discussing this topic have engaged in sex before marriage already more than many times.

ASSUMPTION: God has given us many things along with some guidelines richly to enjoy. Essentially all God’s rules are for our benefit , however, it’s disappointing that some areas have been defined as ‘no go zones’: Human Sexuality.This is a ‘relational’ gift: ideally one woman and one man relate for life in all ways and not least at the sexual level. New humans are formed by a couple’s relating and their relationship sustains and enriches the whole of their lives. All Holy Books are quite clear about aspects that need to be part of such a relationship . The Most High has stated that sexual pleasure should be reserved for marriages only …refer to Proverbs 5.17 from the Holy Bible. Aggression, lust and promiscuousness are all strong Negatives.
 MY VERDICT: However, eversince Human creation it has proved very tricky  at times resisting sex before marriage. It is the pleasure and bliss that sex is celebrated for that complicates this story. We shall never be able to separate Human happiness from sexual pleasure hence only Human beings  can have sex for fun anytime other than for reproductive sake.All other animals dont engage in sexual pleasure unless only if they want to reproduce. Should we really be behaving like animals ? Ngati ili nkhani ya mimba or matenda makondomu ndi zina zinzake zilipo and they are effective koma kungoti umbuliwu. As a matter of fact purity seems archaic; Abstinence impossible to all Humans for many centuries. Why wait when everyone else has been getting the Goods ever since Human creation (Adam and Eve were the first culprits )? They are well known today because of this deed, kunjoya zipatso zamthupi.  It’s just Sex — the subject of nearly every movie and primetime show, even the teachings within both the Bible and Koran, magazine ads , all show sex is about power. What’s so special about it before marriage then? Kingi Davide adatani kodi? There is more sexual humiliation guilty parties in the Bible than you can get from the Guinness Book of Records.  The 21st century is a sex-saturated culture, naturally waiting till marriage seems outdated and prudish. You wont change it and nature doesnt apologise. Pleasure is the name of the game and you know it, don’t you?Haaa? But that’s not the whole story. Despite the popular risks of contracting STDs and AIDS or getting pregnant, premarital sex is more pleasurable and fashionable than marriage pleasures.We see them everyday leaving husbands and children kukatchaitsa kwina. Well, simply its coz sex connects two people in body and spirit; it’s impossible to separate the two. Today’s human advancement /dedication in science and innovation is evidence that human is keen to disputing the fears of sexual related illnesses. Seen the many billions allocated in quest for HIV/AIDS cure????….Is this epidemic comparable to Malaria, Cholera or Cancer in terms of its offensiveness???…No ways …....
 KOMABE GUYS : It doesn't matter what sexual sins we have committed in the past, kaya kutaya ndi safu kaya kutchaissa chakumbuyo. Well, it's about who we are now that matters to our personal God Himself and that makes us the people we are. Resisting sex before marriage will bring healthy benefits and allow a person to be more level-headed. Ine ndidakanika kale, ma virgo nonse yetsesani.