shortage of men?

js · Member

shortage of men?

KAPALEPALE · Newbie

True that, true that. Sisters work up u r day and night dreaming, work up. I know some of ya sisters do mess around with alot of men too but men are getting out of hand. "Good topic"( is). Good looking sisters are accepting the fact that their men are getting other women pregnant. What's going on pple? Is it that the baby mama issue is in fashion or what?

fufifufi · Newbie

well dont u think it's up to the woman to decide if she wanna be played on or not? some of us pretend to be happy on the outside but we are hurting big time on the inside, so i think if a guy is messing around sometimes it comes as a waake up call to a sister that she must have been doing something wrong and its time to change, but how do u see change if u change the dude too. on the other hand i do agree ladies need to just get up and go and guys when u see a lady in trouble please reach out to the mamacita to comfort not to cause more pain aiight. dont take this as an argument just posting ma view on this one.

YA MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

straightfire · Newbie

quote:
Originally posted by: js
"anthuni, is it not better to be single or have a non malawian boyfriend or husband here in the US than sharing one malawian guy with every jill ( and in some cases every jack) in town or being treated like ****? i could be wrong. malawian girls where is your pride? "

Js, I feel sorry for the way you look at life. What makes you think you are a better judge for how women feel and judge who to go out with and who not to. And for goodness sake, dont say "malawian girls where is your pride?" This is nothing unique to Malawian girls. Its the way things have been since time immemorial.

I have observed that most of us want to malawianise all the bad things. Please, this kind of behaviour where women go out with men who already have a string of girls is not a malawian theme. Its what happens all over the world. There are a lot of men who literally are shunned by each girl while there are others who literally play/toy around with girls. A good friend of mine (not Malawian) lost a girlfriend (not malawian too) to a married man. Should I say this is English? I am sure you can quote more examples from where you live to further illustrate that this happens all over the world.

You ask the girls where is their pride? Funny, isnt it? Isnt choice a basic right to every human being? If they choose wrongly in your opinion, please learn to accept that life is like that. I am sure the IQ of these Malawian girls is just as good as that of most of us here. There is something they see in these guys that you and me cant see. Therefore, lets not be the judges and lets not Malawianise this behaviour.

js · Member

straightfire, i think I am "smart" enough to know that this matter is worldwide but I am just looking out for my "homies". charity begins at home. I know its their choice to be with whoever they choose to be with just like this is my opinoin (free advice, take it or leave it, no hard feelings). 'change comes from within, you can never change a person unless he/she wants to change!!!!' please don't misquote me, I am not judging anybody or questioning anybody's IQ

-- Edited by js at 02:12, 2005-02-20

sepusepu · Senior Member

straight fire,

i will have to agree with Js.First of all this forum has a majority if not all malawian members, when you write you always trying to target an audience in this case its malawians. He is not judging anybody,its indeed sad how malawian girls are treated by their so called boy friends. How many of you sisters are denied by the men you share the same bed with.If somebody tries to tell you whats going on you get mad @them. Malawian girls you deserve better but you future is in your own hands. Munthu ukamafa umayamba kugontha ndi nkhutu. Everybody cannot be jelous of your relationship.Try to investigate and find out the truth.When you find it it shall set you free.Note :problems will prevail if good people do nothing.

Take it or leave it.

dont talk the talk walk the talk

sepu sepu

MAILOSI · Newbie

There is generally a problem with both men and women. Firstly your question "where is your pride women"?. I guess I will have to ask men the same questions "Where is your pride men". Men propose women - right! The main problem is with men and it is very funny coz it's always gals who are laughed at - Hule amene uja. You will find that a guy is happily married and yet will go around jollying - for what - heavens knows. I won't say there's a shortage of men but men don't like serious relationships, they will take you for a ride, play with your come, use you and then dump. It is even worse if you have your own things like a car, house and good life generally, men will always take you for a ride. Now women smell the coffee, wake up these men are no good. I fully agree all mens are dogs!

sepusepu · Senior Member

quote"I fully agree all mens are dogs!"

Mailosi,

I have to agree withyou on the point that its not just the womens fault but men are also to blame.

On the point that all men are dogs, i totally disagree with you. Do not judge people as a group coz in every group there is at least a few men that have one female partner and they are faithful to them.

On the other hand some malawian sisters akufera mayina kuti aziti ndi akazi a uje. Sisters especially in the foreign lands have a goal in life and if you see that what you have around you will not take you to your destination drop it like its hot and move on.

Eagles fly by themselves while chickens are always in numbers. Amalawi be eagles and rule the sky.

Do not talk the talk but rather walk the talk

sepu sepu.

straightfire · Newbie

Sepu sepu & Js,

First to js, I want to say thanks for coming in with some clarification. Your intention is/was good but thats not the way your text reads. By asking "malawian girls where is your pride?", you have judged and condemned them. Ask anyone else on the implication of that statement, they will tell you that its judgemental. Lets not dwell on that though, I am glad you have clarified your point. On another issue, you doubted/asked if I thought you are not "smart." Trust me, I did not intend to presuppose you are not. Sorry, if my writing gave this impression. I am not the type that cherishes in making judgements on others, let alone when I have never had the previledge to talk to them.

To Sepu sepu and Js, together. I appreciate your concern on the girls. But, my points are that:

1. Lets not malawianise this problem. There are lots of girls from malawi who are out here and not doing this. By making it a problem for all Malawian girls, I feel we are being unjust to those who do are not concerned with the problem. Lets identify the group and identify it as such and not call them "malawian girls."

2. I also said, the problem of several women going out with one man is common, its not unique to these girls. Men who are rich, are celebrities, be it a football player, actor etc have multiple partners all over the world. What it is that girls want from these men is not for me to say. Much as you want these sisters to be above an average woman, I feel the task is beyond all of us. I believe they do this with their eyes and ears open. Obviously its not for poverty. Therefore, there is something you and me dont see that they look for. But ofcourse, I am not saying dont give advice . Like sepu sepu has said, the advice is free, those who want to take may do so.

Cheers, thanks for the comments.

Straightfire.

js · Member

straiightfire, thank you too for your clarification. and for your benefit and the benefit of others like you I correct my stamement. "MALAWIAN GIRLS 'WHO ARE CONSTANLTY PLAYED/USED BYTHOSE WHO CLAIM TO LOVE YOU' WHERE IS YOUR PRIDE?"

IS THAT BETTER?

-- Edited by js at 03:49, 2005-02-22

tiyende Tatu · Newbie

shortage of men?? Which men are we talking about?? i can't see any can you?

Tatu S.