NDAIMA MUTU....................................

swema · Newbie

NDAIMA MUTU....................................

Chindasi · Newbie

its depends how close you are with your friend,if you are close tell him,if you love him,l know its hard to tell.

-- Edited by Chindasi at 00:04, 2007-02-04

-- Edited by Chindasi at 00:05, 2007-02-04

-- Edited by Chindasi at 00:06, 2007-02-04

make mica · Newbie

I think you better tell your friend before its too late. its up to him to take your advice or not bola iwe wanena chilungamo and if he does`nt stop, he will remember you in future that you were a caring friend.

Tutu · Member

Too late , he probably has dipped into it already

Tango · Senior Member

swema wrote:

I have a friend from one of dis african countries and she is positive(i have proof).there is a fellow malawian who happens to be so into the gal.........infact the fella is a gud friend of mine from way back .ndaima mutu....shud i tell ma fellow malawian dat dis gal is positive or shud i leave things the way there are?wont this fella think that iam jelous? i fear for the life of ma bro......nditani?

Sorry dear friend, the young lady told your buddy about her sero status before she accepted his proposal. For the sake of formality, tell your friend in a chi-chat way otherwise he will **** you up, saying you are interfiering thier affair or else you are jalous for his cute pie.

-- Edited by Tango at 14:49, 2007-02-06

mizu yapasi · Member

Waponda kale minga ameneyo.I blame it on you man!371 ikudikila.If I were u I could have told him B4.

Studa · Senior Member

swema wrote:

I have a friend from one of dis african countries and she is positive(i have proof).there is a fellow malawian who happens to be so into the gal.........infact the fella is a gud friend of mine from way back .ndaima mutu....shud i tell ma fellow malawian dat dis gal is positive or shud i leave things the way there are?wont this fella think that iam jelous? i fear for the life of ma bro......nditani?

there is absolutely nothing you can do about this scenario. even if you told the fella about the girl, he would go ahead and do it then conterplate later!! he might have it already from his early exploits, you never know. but to limit exposure you can send him an anonymous message. at least you tried!

Francois · Newbie

Guys,

If he is a true friend,dont know why this should be a problem telling him about this..You will be doing more damage to him by not telling him.I am sure he will appreciate it more.A normal person will not think you are trying to nick his gal.If it was me I would rather be told.You should not get worried of what he will think about you as long as you are saying the truth.

After all how do you know sakutchena (condom)? Nowadays its not wise to make love to a gal/boy without protection.Unless you know the status of the person is -ve.I would advise its a must nowadays to go to hospital first before unprotected sex.If one is +ve its up to you two to continue the relashionship or not obviously by taking all the precautions.

And also its murder to have unprotected sex with someone when you actually know you are +ve.

Francois.

Studa · Senior Member

Francois wrote:

Guys,

If he is a true friend,dont know why this should be a problem telling him about this..You will be doing more damage to him by not telling him.I am sure he will appreciate it more.A normal person will not think you are trying to nick his gal.If it was me I would rather be told.You should not get worried of what he will think about you as long as you are saying the truth.

After all how do you know sakutchena (condom)? Nowadays its not wise to make love to a gal/boy without protection.Unless you know the status of the person is -ve.I would advise its a must nowadays to go to hospital first before unprotected sex.If one is +ve its up to you two to continue the relashionship or not obviously by taking all the precautions.

And also its murder to have unprotected sex with someone when you actually know you are +ve.

Francois.

francois, there is some element of truth in your statement but we must point out that kucthena is not a fullproof solution since in the real world you can only use it for a certain period and as the relationship progresses you are bound to hit it plain! steak to steak! (mwanza nneno)

Francois · Newbie

Thats rubbish then.(if you decide to go plain)But I can understand what you are talking about.(that things change when you have been with somebody for a long time)Nowadays you dont need to take risks no matter what.

Francois

Studa · Senior Member

Francois wrote:

Thats rubbish then.(if you decide to go plain)But I can understand what you are talking about.(that things change when you have been with somebody for a long time)Nowadays you dont need to take risks no matter what.

Francois

true, it is a very sad scenario. but that's the world that we are living in now. we need plenty of awareness on the situation since most of us are not conversant with the magnitude.

YTP · Guru

You might introduce the topic to your friend of both of them going for testing. you can as well say that you are considering being checked up.If it gets worse, be subtle but do your best.

Studa · Senior Member

it is a good idea to go for tests but we should bear in mind that it can take up to six months for a person who has just got it to be diagonised. still,it is better to go since professional advice is offered in all circumstances.

bingiza · Guru

Studa wrote:

it is a good idea to go for tests but we should bear in mind that it can take up to six months for a person who has just got it to be diagonised. still,it is better to go since professional advice is offered in all circumstances.

The info i have says three months.

rawn · Senior Member

it depends on how strong your immune system is!

wabonza · Newbie

Wolakwa ndi iweyo ukuchedwa kuzatiuza ifeyo moti umuuze nzakoyo . Mmene ukuchedwamu mwina pano WASUSA KALE KATATU .
Just kidding bro ,better hurry up just tell him what you know after all its the truth .

Ngwazi · Guru

wabonza wrote:
WASUSA KALE KATATU .

LOL!!its been a while since I last heard this word in relation to having

penetration sex,ha!ha!ha!

Ankhaze · Member

Muli chiimile mutu… inu yanu status mukuyidziwa? Nanga mzanuyo yake akuyidziwa? Remember being HIV positive is not a death sentence and doesn’t entitle one to discrimination. How did you come to know about her status? Is she open about it? I hope so, could be she told ur friend already and what kind of relationship do have with your friend…ndikutalikitsa nkhani, I would say you better have a chat with your friend.

“Think about the consequences before you listen to your libido. If you love him.... If you love her... If you love yourself... then Get HIV Tested. Be wise and condomise”

HOLLA · Veteran Member

Sopano swema, wapangapo vichi?

Dobadoba · Newbie

If youdo really love ur friend,dont hesitate tell him.But the questionj is "do u hav the basic facts to back up ur opinion?"