Marriages

Ankhaze · Member

Marriages

YTP · Guru

In today's marriages one doesnt have to stay if its all wrong anymore as it was then. A woman doesnt have to stay married cos society deems it so and for her not to be shunned.

Its a different world now where one has to stand for what is right by themselves and not stay married for the sake of anybody.Too bad there are so many breakups now but where happiness is concerned.......I might be wrong but i do know that this is one of the reasons pple breakup so easilly these days.

As for deaths, hell, may all the souls departed before us rest in peace.We have to die sometime and i guess i cant give anything on that.

What would you do if you got married and realised that you've made a mistake? Stick in it? Mungatani inuyo????

chichi · Senior Member

The problem with this generation is that we have lost God. We dont put God in our lives thats why there so many problems with marrieges today. We need to pray for a partner i mean a wonderful partner dont just pick someone u saw today and tomorrow ur married. Talk to God let him lead u he has a wonderful plan for ur lives. The problem is that we are not listening to what God is trying to tell us so we take things in our own hands. Once u live ur life without God u will always find problems in your life and not know what do when all these storms of life come ur way. Read the bible brothers and sisters and God will give understanding and peace. I know alot of pple there marrieges are working because they put God first in there relationships. All these problems in the World is because we're not listening pple wake up God is trying to send u a message here and we're not listening. Look at all these wars, earthquakes, hurrican all these things are signs of the end of time please read your bibles. All these Divorces most of them are happening because we dont know God pple.

Let us pray and read our bible. Our bibles are weapons against Satan. When u have ur armors ready no one can make u fall because ur fighting for the Lord the team that wont lose the team that we live for eternity. God is calling each and everyone of us to fight for him so lets stand up and fight against wars, diseases, divorces, eathquakes, hurricans, hunger...etc all these problems we need fight them and to do that we need to know God as our personal friend and savior. God is so faithful and just deserving all glory

Peace

abre les ojos · Guru

Here we go again, another fundamentalist analysis of a bigger problem. Have you ever thought that the problem with marriage might be christianity, rather that the solution.

When two people stop loving each other my dear, no amount of prayer or fasting can repair that damage in fact, living together in a loveless marriage can create dysfunctional kids not to mention the strain it puts on mental well-being or how it makes cheating more likely.

The reason is modernity. Things happen quicker than ever before. The structure of society today - especially in the west makes for easier marry/divorce and with greater independence, more reasons not to remain together if things are not working out.

Chichi is wrong. Christains have the highest level of divorce than any other. And don't get me started on other dysfunctions that arise from their sanctimonious rhetoric of how God can mend a broken marriage.

I can wax lyrical for hours coming out with a theory of why marriages fail more these days and why there is a rise of marriage councellors and all that, but there is no generalisation. People marry and divorce for a multitude of reasons, all different from the next man. That's how it is today and it's not going to change. In fact more and more young people are chosing to abandon the "marriage" thing and just living together and raising kids; it's sure easier that way. Certainly more than a messy divorce with lawyers and a judge....!

Pope · Guru

Broken marriage is a result of failure to match two pipo, we have varied reasons but the most one is the loss of trust and love.

Ankhaze · Member

YTP wrote:

Too bad there are so many breakups now but where happiness is concerned.......I might be wrong but i do know that this is one of the reasons pple breakup so easilly these days............... What would you do if you got married and realised that you've made a mistake? Stick in it? Mungatani inuyo????

YTP I have always believed in being happy and if something/someone doesn't make me happy.... I surely will do away with that/them. U r right happiness matters a great deal.

Unlike our folks' generation - kumachuluka ndi kupilira... the other time I was in Malawi on holiday and attended a wedding...I was impressed that the popular song sang at weddings 'kapilile unka iweko' was banned akuti 'zopilira' zinatha that's old fashioned ndati sheee! aMalawi sakucheza!

Ankhaze · Member

chichi wrote:

The problem with this generation is that we have lost God. We dont put God in our lives thats why there so many problems with marrieges today. We need to pray for a partner i mean a wonderful partner dont just pick someone u saw today and tomorrow ur married. Let us pray and read our bible. Our bibles are weapons against Satan. When u have

some people don’t believe in God but are very successful. What would you tell me about such? Btw, I am a Christian and God fearing.

game · Guru

friends

many break ups are a result to people lying too much,the time you realise dude is a con artist you are up the duff,you really have to go deeper into the relationship before making a commitment,but if its just a live in thing like what many people do when they come abroad it dont matter as long as you share the bills.

YTP · Guru

game wrote:

friends many break ups are a result to people lying too much,the time you realise dude is a con artist you are up the duff,you really have to go deeper into the relationship before making a commitment,but if its just a live in thing like what many people do when they come abroad it dont matter as long as you share the bills.

Well, cohabiting and marriage are very different and we dont want to go and explain why cos we all know; vows and all that.Sharing bills is ok but one can do that without sharing a bed as well!!!

Game, what do you mean by friends lying too much? Marriage is a commitment we ought to go into with our eyes wide open and everything as clear as crystal cos otherwise, he he deeeeee!!!!

Chichi, i know lots of pple who prayed for a partner but what they got was yesterday's news. Marriage?!!!!Hmmmmm........not so sure anymore but heck, who wants to be blind for the rest of their lives or be second best when they know the world is crumbling around them?!!!!!

Hope i aint scaring no one!!!!