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sophisticate2000


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I have come to realize that most Malawian girls are very envious of other people, especially if those people are prettier, more successful and doing much better than they are, in most cases if they envy a person,  they will do almost anything to destroy that a person's reputation. even  if it means making up a bunch of lies about that particular person. Us as a people should always learn to never judge a person by what people say about them, as an intelligent rational woman, i always give everybody a chance regardless of what people may say about that person and i'm always suprised. Nintey nine percent of what people say about other people is untrue. In most cases i have learnt that most people that are negatively talked about are either very pretty and very successful, so it is just hatred and jealous going around, so next time someone says something negative about another person, ask yourself two things, what does the person saying these negative stuff has going for them?? why would they just know so much about this other person?? why are they so interested in your knowing of their negatives?? because they are jealous of that person for one thing or another, otherwise why would they care. One thing we have to realize is people that gossip don't just do that once, they gossip about everybody and they do this to boost their own self esteem and to gain friendship, yes they are very sad people and miserable. Like i said if you meet these people that some people say all these negative things about, in most cases if not all, you will be very surprised, most of these people are down to earth people that are just hated for being who they are. So next time someone starts telling you negative things about someone else, stop them and tell them they don't need to resort to gossiping because at the end of the day what they say does not matter, what matters is the truth, and the truth is she who gossip, is envious, jealous, sad, very sad and miserable inside. so next time someone start to gossip about someone, please give them a hug for me and all other successful individuals in the world. They surely need a hug coz they are hurting inside,


So everybody who has been talked about, know this, it is actually a compliment when people gossip about you, that means you got something they envy about you, it is very true and most of you will agree with me.



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quite frankly, I couldn't agree with you more....

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amdala


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you mean things like 'the beautiful are loose...'? hahahaha


nsanje, thats what it is.



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Mwabanyane!!


dont worry about such people and i must say dont even bother wasting your time with such people!!!


keep your head up!and you should always remember that people hate what they cant conquer!!!



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If you spend your time talking about such people they tend to accomplish their mission of distructing you from thriving in whatever you do. On the other had you should not put a deaf ear on constructive criticism. I would personally say if somebody warns me i would proceed with caution. I try not to judge any one. My friendship is based on quality and not quantity.


sepu



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I couldn't have said it better!! Chisomo, it's not just the girls ndi aliyense.  There was a sad situation in SA where some evil Malawian tried to get a number of Malawians deported! It's very sad indeed..... not matter what people say about me I will always walk tall as long as I know the truth within me!!!

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I on the other hand am not going to humour you by saying what you WANT to hear.


Stop being a baby and get on with it! Everywhere you go, every society, community, street corner, boardroom, workplace, marketplace, You'll find people like that. Live with it! We all do. There really is no point pondering on why people gossip and backbite or jealousy and evny and all that; everybody does it or is capable of it. It doesn't get better. The world won't change itself because you fell wronged or unhappy about its inhabitants, you on the other hand need to change.


You need to rise above the  pettiness around you instead of wallowing in it. That is the sign of a better person, a bigger person. The negativity you see out there is in your head. The world always wins in the end so stop moaning and get on with living....



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Id rather hear people vent and moan on Malawiana about Malwians then go and vent to non-malawians cuz that would make us all look bad-


 


Unfortunatley Malawians can be like that some times. but. this is how rumours start. u tell one person , they tell another , they tell another... and at the end of the grapevine the story changes a little or alot. somtimes though people talk about others for entertainment purposes not b/c of hatred... thats all. I think there is a whole diff situation though when u here of pple calling INS on others etc... people need to realise that when u bring one person down ur tearing down a whole community b/c malawi is real small...


u know the saying small mind discuss people, mediocre minds dicuss issues, great minds discuss ideas... where do the people u know fit in ... there are a lot of Malawians that do have better things to talk about then others.... and some that try to get away to rumours by sticking to themselves or to groups with a smaller vine...and they are called snobs or haters.. its a cathch 22 that way..ur damned if u do, and ur damned if u dont..



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Very well said ms sophisticate2000, the most shameful part is when we attack these people anonymously on this very forum proving that we are too intimidated to face them and confront them ntchito kumangowanyoza. makamaka when you read some of these personal attacks you really wonder how the victim's lives have been documented mentally by us.and we are dumb enough to show the world that we are really in this person's business and are interested, don't care whether the info its true or not.Pipo, let's get a life. 

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Why is it that on such topics many newbies rise? Is it because of anonymity? Why can't we keep our old "names"? What the fear? Hypocrisy does not solve problems.

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AW C'MON BLACKPANTHER, STOP HUMOURING THESE WHINERS. EVERY SOCIETY HAS BACK-BITERS. EVEN MORE THAN MWIANS. IF YOU HAD INDIAN FRIENDS THEY'LL TELL YOU IT'S WORSE WITH THEM.

ALL THIS MOANING... ALL I CAN SAY IS GO OUT AND GET A LIFE. REMEMBER WHAT OSCAR WILDE SAID "THERES ONLY ONE THING WORSE THAN BEING TALKED ABOUT, IT'S NOT BEING TALKED ABOUT"

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abre les ojos wrote:

I on the other hand am not going to humour you by saying what you WANT to hear. Stop being a baby and get on with it! Everywhere you go, every society, community, street corner, boardroom, workplace, marketplace, You'll find people like that. Live with it! We all do. There really is no point pondering on why people gossip and backbite or jealousy and evny and all that; everybody does it or is capable of it. It doesn't get better. The world won't change itself because you fell wronged or unhappy about its inhabitants, you on the other hand need to change. You need to rise above the  pettiness around you instead of wallowing in it. That is the sign of a better person, a bigger person. The negativity you see out there is in your head. The world always wins in the end so stop moaning and get on with living....


What's going on Abre'? You're starting to sound more and more like an agony aunt!



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...TELL ME ABOUT IT...

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u are the main man what about them gossipers at least get a life and dont let them hear what they want that is not being yourself u want a view tolerate it and see the way forward if u already have made up your mind go on top of a mountain  and slug it out no wonder some people go to a mental hospital for wanting not to believe another view

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What on earth are you on about?

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Ha!ha! I think this is funny,cause today at work we were talking about the same thing,.gossipers oh ma god.The one thing I"ve noticed is that us malawians, when we talk about somebody,and lets say they walk in we ignore the person,but these white people oh my gosh !!!you walk in ,they have a big smile on their face as if they were not talking about you.They change the subject so quickly.


Sometimes I  wonder,like why are these people so fake,when you confront someone they think your mean,its like come on people lets get real here.


 its not only malawians who gossip,malawians are even better comparing to some  of these mzunguz.The fact that on your face they  are all nicey nicey, the moment you leave the room its all about you.I hate it.


Where I work at am a supervisor,and people tell on each to me all the time.before I used to take sides,but i realised that  I was just wasting my time,cause i will be upset with one person,am like how can they talk about this person like that.next thing I know they are  all buddy buddy,and in my head am  like, i thought you were just talking about that person.


There  are gossipers in every  nationality and race.



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just because everybody does something doesn't make it right, does it??  some of you say people that you work with gossip??? i would like to know what corporation you work for, because the one i work at, gossiping is not allowed, and may i say that the higher the eduction a person have the less likely they will resort to gossip. so take it for what it's worth.


i forgot who it was that said small minds discuss people,etc..... he couldn't have put it any clearer, so you take your pick.............



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and may i say that the higher the eduction a person have the less likely they will resort to gossip. so take it for what it's worth.


Sophistaicted2000 sorry honey not always, truth is there is no such thing as intelligence, only different levels of ignorance.

*Kiss*





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There's multi-billion dollar industry dedicated to gossip. The tabloids, news, TV, the internet. Everywhere you look, rumours abound. It's life! Information is the new technology this century as manufacturing was in the last. Gossip (and porn of course) drive it. It's human nature. If you feel that the world is treating you badly by gossiping unfairly about you, you have the alternative to shut yourself in your room and ignore the world (mind you they'll be gossiping about you going crazy).


What I'm trying to say is simple join the gossip. It's fun talking about people behind their backs.


Give me one reason why it is bad to gossip! It doesn't hurt anyone.... In fact it is more harmful when one says it in front of you.



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WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!! AMDALA MULI BOO!!!!....... 'ABOUT BEAUTIFUL WOMEN BEING LOOSE!!!!!?'


IF YOU DONT GOSSIP, HOW CAN SOME OF US FEEL GOOD ABOUT OURSELVES IF WE DONT FINK WE ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS? HMM?



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Who is going to cast the first stone?

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I'll be glad to

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we waiting

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