Malawian Males are Metrosexual

Black Panther · Senior Member

Malawian Males are Metrosexual

abre les ojos · Guru

YOU FORGOT...

11. MEN WHO ARE IN DENIAL ABOUT THEIR SEXUALITY. THEY LOVE THE ATTRIBUTES OF GAY GUYS BUT DENY THAT THEY WANT TO BE THEM.

12. SINCE THEY SPEND MORE TIME GROOMING THEMSELVES THEY FAIL TO APPRECIATE THEIR "GIRLFRIENDS" AND END UP FOCUSING ON OTHER GUYS AND THEIR CLOTHES.

13. WILL EVENTUALLY COME OUT THE CLOSET AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES; PROBABLY WHEN THEIR OLD AND FAT...

malawian · Veteran Member

Your description complicates the understanding because many men have one or more of the characteristics mentioned. Those curious dudes who watch Queer eye once in a while are not metros, they are just curious. A frenchman appreciating the origin of his wine can not be forcibly categorized as a metro.

In my point of view, the majority of Malawian men are just men. The term Metrosexual is too broad to categorise them. To be more objective, it is better to replace it by either gay or straight when asking the question.The term metrosexual encourages judging people's appearance, looks and preference. In a way it also encourage stereotypes.

Brandy1 · Veteran Member

abre les ojos wrote:

YOU FORGOT... 12. SINCE THEY SPEND MORE TIME GROOMING THEMSELVES THEY FAIL TO APPRECIATE THEIR "GIRLFRIENDS" AND END UP FOCUSING ON OTHER GUYS AND THEIR CLOTHES.

Abre you are totally out of line here. Let me tell you this my brother, my man though he qualifies in the Metro Sector, he really appreciates me and in my whole life I've never met someone who treats me more than I ever imagined. Even though he is so conscious about his looks but he always makes it that when we are going out together we are complimenting and most of the times he is the one who gives up his choice to compliment mine. So what does this sound like to you, selfish and unappreciative, huh? Your name couldn't come at a better time, oh yeah, it's time you really need to open them eyez! Much luv though, aight!!!

abre les ojos · Guru

BUT YOU CHOSE TO "AIR YOUR LAUNDRY" SO YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN READY TO HEAR SOMETHING THAT WAS LESS THAN PATRONISING, ESPECIALLY FROM ME. SOMETHING WAS BOTHERING YOU SO YOU CHOSE TO SHARE IT.

ONE SHOULD NOT BE AFRAID OF SALT UNLESS ONE HAS OPEN WOUNDS (I THINK CONFUCIUS SAID THAT).

MY EYES ARE OPEN... BUT ARE YOURS?

amdala · Senior Member

Black Panther, enlighten amdala boss, a metro : does he meet all those qualities or just one?

Brandy1 · Veteran Member

Abre you didn't get me there. I was asking you guyz your opinion on people who are like that and this doesn't make me not to comment when you are talking bad/wrong about them. I quoted yur line and I tried to explain to you that just cos a man is a metro it doesn't mean he don't appreciate his woman. Trust me Babes, if a man don't appreciate me or even just disrespects me then that's something I don't need to ask people their opinion, all I have to do is give him a boot faster than he came. Well about opening my eyes, am just trying to do that now on the other areas but when it comes to being appreciated then oooh, they are damnnnn wide open!!!!!!!!!!

MISS THANG · Senior Member

How a about a guy who is just too shy. I know this guy right, he's one fine looking brother but it took him 4 weeks to get the courage to tell me that he fancied me. Ok, that was fine.I mean you can tell that he wants to say something bit he's so shy he blushes everytime i look at him. he can never look me straight in the eyes but when my back is turned, i can feel that he is looking at me. The moment i turn around to face him he looks on the floor,up at the ceiling, anywhere but at me.

He asks me before he comes and sits next to me, he asks to hold my hand, he says sorry for everything even when i'm the one to blame. At 1st i found it endearing but eventually it rubbed me up the wrong way.

Talking to him is also a problem cause he's got the softest of voices and he wont say more than 4 words at a time. Now you can imagine me being as loud as i am and also very vocal( i mean i can talk most people to the ground). Basically he doesn't stimulate me interlectually. I mean i can't talk to him about anything coz either, he doesn't know **** or else he's too reserved and that's been a turn off for me. I'm glad to say that we've never gone past the flirting stage coz i believe that if we had it would have been a complete disaster.(Imagine trying to......with the guy, he would have been askin for my permission every step of the way)

In the end we've become good friends and i'm trying to teach him to be more assertive and confident with himself coz otherwise he will never be able to keep a gal.

My question is what does that make him? (he also fits the metro profile perfectly) but i know for sure he aint gay coz no gay person is that reserved!

-- Edited by MISS THANG at 14:57, 2005-07-29

-- Edited by MISS THANG at 15:01, 2005-07-29

Black Panther · Senior Member

I know some people are reading this def. and thinkgint' oh my god , thats me!' and questionging there sexuality right now. Let me say this, by anyones definition, the metrosexual is not the same as the homosexual. Like abre said in his post, it was a term that the media/markerters coined b/c there was a growing market of men that were concerned with thier looks and looking preentable ( as opposed to scruffy, dirty, and smelly). These are the people that are buying sean jeans brand, and other designer clothes and have a fashion sense - there aint nothing wrong with that - and it is not in anyway gay -

It bring to light the boundries that society puts on us in terms of gender roles - traditionally marketers have targeted women for fashion and style- the magazines like GQ came out - and then the whole gay thing blew up, but there were men that were not gay that were concenred with lokos - a lt of wealthier men for example go to get their nails done (not with nail polish, but have some one trim or what ever, get massages etc..) - those are the metros.... Unlike what Abre said , and i agree that he was out of line , was that it is supressed homosexuality - it is not - gender roles are defined by man - in cleopatras days, men would wear make up - they were not repressing sexulaity - society said it was ok for men to wear make - up thats all. Abre if u say a metrosexual is repressing homosexuality then that person is not a metrosexual but a bonafide homosexual. Metros are not gay. simple.

the metrosexual man is not gay. he is straight. and he has not intention of being gay. a lot of the times guys like things but they fear being labeled gay if they , for example 'wear that ppink shirt' - well now that pink is in for males - its a metrosexaul thing and not a gay thing....

Most men do have metro tendancies Amandla, so person doesnt have to do all .. Queer eye for the straight guy is heavily ladded with straight men wacthing it b/c frankly, a lot of them feel they need direction in becoming stylish w/o becoming gay - thats a metro. Its just a general guide that displys characteristics of a metro.

In my opinion, 90% of that malawian males I have met are metro - go to any malawian party - people are dressed to kill - go to a Kenyan party, or a zimbabwean party, it is a different story - Malawian men love to dress up, are fashion conscience and are well groomed. I would take that any day over the rugged scruffy type look.

ree · Newbie

Malawian men are not metrosexual at all. It is a life style it is not just a one day dress up. A metrosexual is someone who is perpertually clean cut, does not attempt to speak ebonics, does not wear baggy clothes and cares more about his nails, what shoes he wears (not just the basics kicks that are in but $$$ shoes), knows eveything about women's fashion and so on and so forth. Not conceited and and speaks very very well, carries himself like a man. Not even 3/4 of MLWians are like that.

Lets not adopt terms without knowing what they mean peeps!

abre les ojos · Guru

REE, YOU ARE A REVELATION..

I COULDN'T AGREE WITH YOU MORE....

HIT THE NAIL SQUARE ON THE HEAD....

Black Panther · Senior Member

Ree good point on the one day dress up thing b/c ur right it is a lifestyle 24/7 but I think the metro is GQ then anything but yoiu can still do the baggy jeans as long as its not showing your ass, Alo i dont hin the metro has mad money either .... he can be avg. salary wise, ie a male version of a fahsion concious female.

abre les ojos · Guru

Fashion, fashion its all vain. Some bastards name on my underwear makes it cost £20 even though it's made by some poor peasant in a factory in china for 50p. Its all nonesense. Martha Stewart, Sean Jean, Fubu, Nike, Levi, Coke. Products of American deception and over-consumption. Its all going to crash. All this GQ, Playboy, Loreal living, metrosexual rubbish. It's all going out. Globalisation, empire etc The American brand is out.... It's an empire in decline. All this decadence - hip-hop, R&B, Puff-daddy, Brittney Spears, MTV. I sincerely believe the signs are out....