Sometimes we dont know ourselves..no?... as such i beleive we never completely know ourself but most of the time we are unaware of this..and when we get a shock..a setback..we do either of two..ignore the setback or analyse it. and when we analyse it, we come to conclusion that everything happening to us is reaction of our own actions....
i was thinking about this...today talking to my soon to be Ex boyfreind , it backfired.  we had a disagreement , i said some thigs ..he didnt like and i felt angry that he made me appologise to him for what i belived ididnt have to ..later i realised that the  things he said were correct.
so...i shouldnt have been angry. i felt letdown...that degraded my self esteem...
so whats the lesson... stay ready to accept criticism? is that hard?
at least its simple to say.
... then accepted that i made a mistake...i think realising that i made a mistake was  even worse..i started feeling guilty...and that decrases your self-esteem.

well sitting down here and reading the topics on this forum , i did some thinking and i got resolved..i will share it with you...
life has rules..the more u learn better u are equipped to tackle problems and thats called wisdom. for every rule, life keeps on giving us hints till we get one, and learn that rule. so we should never let anything go unanalysed, there may be hidden a way to lighten up our lives...but yet we should not be somuch caught in analysis that it eats us up..it should be done in a purely analytical way..just like we solve an interesting riddle..

what do u think ?