Cousin destroyed malife

makaveli · Newbie

Cousin destroyed malife

kesso · Senior Member

Sweetie as a guy it really is harder for me to empathise with you. But I still think that I can give you a little bit of wisdom on this.

Leave him. Leave him now. Send him out. He will never change and might I even say that he doesn't love you. I know your heart is aching at the moment and you feel extremely hurt, but You know what? Pain always goes away. The heart is a very resilient thing, it will heal and you will be thinking "what the **** did I see in him anyway? Fristly, you have to let go. Take the brave step and send his ass packing....

Your post was very desciptive and to detail, knowing how small the Malawian community is, we'll find out who it is soon enough...

Good Luck..

game · Guru

MAKAVELI

i can feel your pain,it looks like your heart is been ripped off,lets hope we have an agony aunt on the forum to help you put together the fragments of your broken heart.pali aku mpando a Ngwazi,keeso,chichi,chiki,and others maybe they will be able to help you.as of now be strong.

Mulopwana · Veteran Member

Makaveli

I agree with kesso, the guy doesnt love. From your explaination it seems he is sleeping with all his cousin. You have to show him that he is not all what you wanted in life. If you keep him, you will hear next time that he is going out with one of your own sisters. you never know.

bling · Newbie

As a dude myself i wolud advise not to continue the relationship or whats left of it,you dont desreve a guy who commits INCEST.

Ngwazi · Guru

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Originally posted by: bling
"As a dude myself i wolud advise not to continue the relationship or whats left of it,you dont desreve a guy who commits INCEST."

Bling,

I think you have jumped the gun,to say the guy commits incest by sleeping with these girls is wrong.You have to remember that Makaveli said the guy "claims"(very important word!)that they are his cousins just because they come from the same area,"Mangochi".In a typical malawi set up,we call every young relative, even mere family friends "cousins" and all adults "uncle" or "aunt".Depending on how close the relationship is,first cousins are really untouchable,you cant sleep with your first cousin(s) as they tend to be very close to you ,more of a brother or sister but any other cousin(s) beyond the first cousin(s) is/are a fair game(unless of course they have been brought up together with you),cousins are normally "where we learn the game".Personally I would not touch my first cousins but those ones we call"cousins"just to stop people asking many questions,they are a good game and as far as I am concerned thats not incest.

Coming back to Makaveli,dont trust this guy anymore,let go of the relationship,move on otherwise you are in for more heartache

As kesso has said,it wont be long before we find out who the guy is,well I have an idea that this thing is happening in West London,somewhere in Slough coz I am aware of a similar situation in that area or is it the same?

Chiki · Veteran Member

Yo go gal.Just drop the sorry ass and get on wit ur life. Yo jus dont deserve the likes of him. If the guy cant see wot he has then thats his funeral. Thats de best thing yo can do for yourself and after the pain fades yo will be so proud of yourself.

Chiki · Veteran Member

"Its a shame that noone can be perfect esp.men" but thats no excuse 2 settle for second best.

It looks like she's been waiting for a long time!

chichi · Senior Member

girl i will tell u that ur wasting your time with this guy I have to agree with kesso for the first time. U need to leave him and trust me the light will shine again been there done that and I couldnt be happier with ma man now. So just let him step u deserve better. Girl dont sell yourself short u are a queen and deserve to be treated like one. Just pray for him though

Chiki girl thats funny LoL